I watch some channels on YouTube where the camera wanders around Moscow or St Petersburg. I feel a desire to see those buildings blown up like the ones in Ukraine. I have to remind myself that except for old cranky Russians, most young Russian understand exactly what's going on. In the final analysis, they're as helpless as young Americans who were against Iraq. Like you say, heartbreaking.
Here are some links for anyone who wants to recognize that the Russian people, are in general, just like us. Putin and his regime are evil. They do not represent humanity.
Walk around
https://www.youtube.com/c/LostinMoscow
Interviews:
https://www.youtube.com/c/1420channel
One of the sweetest Russians I believe one could ever meet.