If I can take your father's perspective. He may be forcing his beliefs on you but aren't you forcing your relaxed attitude on him; that is, the more he tries to get you to change your behavior (like become a doctor) because he's worried you'll end up poor, the more you tell him, essentially, to "relax, everything will be okay." Do you know the future? Why should your short experience in life override his?

It would be easy for me, as an American, to take your side and sit in judgment of your father. But my interest in China prevents me from casting him in some simple racist light.

I used to work for an ABC 35+ years ago. His mother was born in China and did the accounts of the company. When I was visiting Denver I brought back a $5 remainder book of some photos for her. It was a throw-away gift to me, really nothing. She almost burst into tears saying she would cut out every page and frame it. I was SHOCKED. Lou has told me his mother had had to march 100s of miles and lost some of her stomach.

To think of the hardships she must have experienced in life that would make my simple gift mean something like that!

Your Dad apparently did not grow up in a time or place where kindnesses are everywhere. You have been brought up in a country with no memory of hardships or the civil war.

Recently, hundreds of Chinese people died in a tunnel in Zhengzhou (I don't believe CCP figures). Think about that. We know who every single person was who tied at Florida's Champlain Towers. No one ever knows what happens to most people in China. I don't mean to bash on China. I just want to make the point that in China one human life means nothing. Even hundreds can mean nothing. From your father's perspective, how can he ignore that?

How can he be sure you won't be deported back to China one day. You and I might laugh. But really, should we? It isn't outside the realm of possibility. From your Father's POV, it's a real concern.

Why don't you try to talk to your Dad about his fears and be as kind as you expect him to be about your brother's. I believe if you learn more about his life, as much as you learned in "Attack on Titan" you will have a more nuanced view.