That's because you're hyper-rational and take the words literally, instead of in an emotional context. I said, "with love", but even your rational mind can't let that qualify what came before.

I too, am hyper-rational. I'm just 20+ years older and accept the asshole in me. Yet still I struggle, every day. I knew what I wrote would have this affect, but I did it anyway. Is that right? Is that good? My conclusion is I have benefitted from the people who told me the same stuff I've said you to you. I hated it at the time. But it gave me a way out when I lost control. Rather, when I finally admitted I was overthinking things.

I once told my daughter jokingly, "half the world is going to hate you and half the world is only going to tolerate you." Yep, still true ;) I could have added 5% will really appreciate you, but that's a low number and maybe best not to get one's hopes up, that you can even achieve that HAHA.